Posted on September 11, 2011

My Not So Silent Sunday – 11th September 2011

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I’ve had the perfect picture in mind for Silent Sunday this week but I couldn’t post it without telling you what it means to me and how hard it has been for me this week! 

My Three Gorgeous Kiddos :O)

Those of you who follow me on twitter will know that Lero my eldest (14) moved to live with his Dad on Monday 5th September (my Birthday) – This photo was taken about an hour before he left! He is such a good boy & loves Boo & Bugs to pieces! He is so good with them and they miss him dearly!! Not half as much as I do though 🙁

Alot of you have asked why he moved and I have tried to explain it on Twitter but it is so hard to say in 140 characters!! So I will try and explain…

We used to live very close to Lero’s Dad but when we had Boo we decided we needed to move closer to James’ work 50 miles away as it was taking it’s toll on our family life. So we moved and we have been here for over 4 years now and we are ALL very happy here – including Lero, he settled really well into his new school and made tons of friends!!

James got made redundant in Dec 09 and managed to get himself a job 55 miles away!!! We thought another move may be on the cards but we thought we would try and see how it would go with James’ commuting. So since Jan 10 James has been commuting 1.5-3hrs each way, each day! He would continue but with the fuel prices rising it is really stretching us financially so we decided that we must put our house on the market and move as soon as we can before we get into trouble!

Obviously this was a really hard decision to make especially as I was aware that Lero didn’t want to move to a new area and start a new school all over again. So after a lot of thought he/we decided that he would like to go and live with his Dad so he could go to school there – where he knows friends from when he went to school there previously! He wanted to wait until we sold the house to move – but I said no he must move at the start of this school year so he is there in his new school for his final 2 years. I didn’t want his schooling being disrupted during year 10 & 11. (That was really hard for me to do as I wanted to keep him with me as long as i possibly could!)

SO that’s what happened he moved on the 5th September and started school on the 7th – thankfully he is loving his new school and seems to be settling really well!!! He’s a good boy and I just wish him so much happiness and success!! I love him dearly!! I really feel like I have failed him and let him down and that i’m a terrible Mother! I expect him to come downstairs every morning and just be his bright cheery self and I even cry when I walk past his school! I’m sure this will all pass but it’s so HARD – I hate being without one of my babies!!!

Now we are stuck here waiting for someone to buy the house… with a big heavy heart 🙁

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17 Comments

  • Reply Older Single Mum October 19, 2011 at 4:40 pm

    What a heartbreaking situation for you, but all credit to you for putting his needs first. How very brave you all are being.

  • Reply Notmyyearoff September 12, 2011 at 4:31 pm

    Hope you're ok. Must be really hard but i hope you fins a very happy middle ground which means everyone is happy. Lovely picture

  • Reply bella_and_me September 11, 2011 at 11:08 pm

    What a beautiful photo. I can't imagine how hard this is for you but Liam seems very grown up, you've obviously done a wonderful job. xxx

  • Reply Carly Yeganeh September 11, 2011 at 9:03 pm

    You are so brave and an amazing mum for this. Don't EVER think otherwise. Massive hugs, keep strong, all will be great x

  • Reply missielizzie September 11, 2011 at 8:34 pm

    That's a very hard call for anyone to make!

    But you've made your decision together and for all the right reasons. Great to hear he's settling in so well.

    You must be all missing him so dearly though. ((hugs))

  • Reply Katie @mummydaddyme September 11, 2011 at 6:02 pm

    Oh hun I was following all this on twitter- I am sorry to hear about Liam but I am sure that he will come and visit you often. What a tough decision, and ultimately it makes you an even better mother as you have put him before your own needs of wanting him to be with you. Beautiful photo too. x

  • Reply Clairejustine September 11, 2011 at 1:02 pm

    Great family photo but what a sad week for you…

  • Reply Sarah September 11, 2011 at 12:32 pm

    What a wonderful mother you are to not be selfish and take your son with you. Mothers guilt drowns us all sometimes but don't let it get to you. A beautiful photo that definitely needed words!

  • Reply Sarahmumof3 September 11, 2011 at 10:44 am

    oh my, that is such a hard decision you had to make, but have faith you have done the right thing your eldest son will not think you have failed and you can be there for him even when hes not in yoru house, big hugs for you I can't imagin how difficult it must be 🙁 xxx

  • Reply multiplemummy September 11, 2011 at 10:06 am

    Wow what a tough decision but one which i think highlights what a wonderful mother you are and not a failure at all! You have put the needs of your son over your own feelings. it would have been easy to force him to move with you and resent you for it in the long term. I can totally understand your heartache and heart goes out to you, but it is the best decision. Never doubt your parenting…your superb!

  • Reply Janne September 11, 2011 at 8:46 am

    You are an AMAZING Mum otherwise your eldest son would not have the maturity to deal with the situation. Family life is full of tough decisions and there is no doubt you are trying to do what is right for him and your younger two. My eldest son is 15yrs old and so I can understand what you must be feeling though.
    Janne x

  • Reply Aimi September 11, 2011 at 8:21 am

    What a lovely photo, really feel for you, you have odviously raised a very mature and caring boy. Xxx

  • Reply Mummy Mishaps aka Jenny Paulin September 11, 2011 at 7:35 am

    Its such a beautiful photo of your three children – your eldest son is very handsome . What a hard decision but it's good that everything is working out. Xx

  • Reply Erica Price September 11, 2011 at 7:21 am

    It's a lovely photo. I know it's been tough, but it seems like Liam made the right decision for him and you backed him all the way.

  • Reply Cara September 11, 2011 at 7:12 am

    Oh you poor thing. I think you are an amazing Mum, who has selflessly looked for the best solution for your boy. I'm sure the time he does spend with you and the little ones in the future will be extra special quality time. Well done, you're doing a great job. Cx

  • Reply Mum2babyinsomniac September 11, 2011 at 7:10 am

    Ahh what a hard situation. A very similar thing happened with my brother when he was old enough to decide he wanted to go and live with his Dad, I had already left home but I know it was very hard for my Mum and for him as he felt so guilty having to choose but he just wanted to experience living with his Dad which I guess is understandable. I hope you find a house soon x

  • Reply Paula Fazekas September 11, 2011 at 7:09 am

    Its a beautiful photo & you have a beautiful family, no matter where you all are 🙂 I hope your ok

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