This post is written by the lovely Dawn from Broody IVF Mummy What do you all think? Please share your opinions with her. thank you xxx
My son is only 4 years old, and this should be a battle that I face in a few years…yet, here I am now.
It is not the battle that takes place in most living rooms across the country – it is not the fight between Eastenders and Top Gear, or between a chick flick and football.
It is more than that. It is a battle of wills, of persuasion and of what we think is right. A battle with other parents, and with commercialism. It is a battle I fear I might not win.
It is the battle of to watch or not to watch Ben 10 (Power Rangers and other combat ‘cartoons’ can also be inserted here and frequently are)
Since my little boy started at his new nursery in February, he has become more aware of this genre of CHILDREN’S shows. His new friends seem obsessed with the fighting that happens in them. They regularly bring in character toys from these programmes and DJ speaks about them for hours when he gets home.
So far we have stood our ground and said a firm no to watching them. I’ve checked the content of them whilst DJ has been out, and I am sorry, but there is no way that they are suitable for young children. And yet, this is their target audience. The young impressionable boys and girls who justify kicking another person because they are ‘evil’.
I appreciate that over time there has always been the portrayal of bad versus good in child play – from cowboys and Indians, to cops and robbers and other variations on the theme…but, these are based on a child’s imagination. An imagination restricted by their experiences. So when a group of toddlers play Power Rangers etc, they are gleaming their imagination from the ‘real life’ they have seen on the TV.
But my stubbornness has created not only the tension over the TV remote, but an internal conflict in myself – am I doing the right thing stopping him watching these programmes, when his peers are allowed to do so?
And, how can I explain to DJ that I don’t think that they are suitable for him when his friends are allowed? Am I inadvertently telling him that their parents just aren’t as worried about their children as I am about him?
I don’t think that there is a conclusive answer to these questions. For now I am going to continue saying NO, keep promoting a different attitude and explain that violence is a terrible thing. I’m just not sure how long I can do it for…